I think labels are helpful but sometimes inefficient. We’re polyamorous to the point that we feel we can/will most likely fall in love/like/lust with other people for different reasons at different times in our life, we just make a conscious decision to keep one another as número uno. We believe our love is strong enough to endure the occasional unpleasantness that invariably arises from this, and we work to eliminate feelings of jealousy in our relationship.
I know a lot of people in monogamous bdsm relationships, but I could never do it. In fact the only time I was ever completely monogamous was when Hubby and I first started seeing one another. Before then I would just cheat; I would feel guilty, but never stop. During and after college I felt like I would never meet someone who would understand and accept that part of me, but then I met my love.
To quote the great James Deen, “sex is like soccer. It’s fun and athletic, and you should do it with your friends.” Life is too short for one partner. Variety is beautiful.
If I follow you, yes, I care about your garden, what your cat did today, the jewelry you made, that one friend who said the thing, i like your sense of humor, and also your selfies.